#077 – Why Adults Need Play | 52 Life Lessons – Lesson 8

Podcast Summary

In this episode of the 52 Life Lessons series, Tim Borys explores one of the most overlooked, misunderstood, and essential drivers of human health and performance: PLAY.

While children, athletes, and even pets embrace play naturally, most adults slowly eliminate it from their lives—often without realizing the cost. Tim shares powerful stories from his early fitness career, where adding playful movement back into executive training sessions produced dramatic improvements in creativity, energy, performance, and joy.

Drawing on research from neuroscience, psychology, and human performance, Tim explains why play is not childish, and certainly not a “reward”—it’s a biological necessity that fuels emotional resilience, stress management, creativity, cognitive flexibility, relationships, and professional effectiveness.

Listeners walk away with 20 practical ways to reintroduce play into both work and personal life, alongside a mindset shift: Play isn’t the opposite of work… play fuels better work.

Key Takeaways

  • Adults don’t stop playing because they grow old — they grow old because they stop playing.

  • Play improves emotional intelligence, stress resilience, creativity, and relationships.

  • Play is any activity that sparks joy, curiosity, presence, and experimentation.

  • Play reduces burnout and unlocks better thinking, problem-solving, and innovation.

  • You don’t need more time to play — you need permission.

  • You can add play to your workday in seconds: movement breaks, humor, micro-challenges, curiosity prompts.

  • Positive emotions broaden your thinking and build long-term resilience, according to the Broaden & Build Theory.

  • Play is a biological drive — your brain is wired to seek it.

Episode Links & Resources

Resources Mentioned:

Connect with Tim: https://timborys.com/book-tim/
Buy Tim’s Book: The Fitness Curveball (Amazon Link)
Barbara Fredrickson’s Broaden-and-Build Theory: https://positivepsychology.com/broaden-and-build-theory/

Podcast Highlights

Please Note: This transcript is generated by computer and may contain minor errors. Section headings added for clarity.


Introduction — The Power of Play

Tim opens by reframing a concept adults often dismiss: play. Kids do it effortlessly. Athletes thrive on it. Pets embody it. Yet somewhere in adulthood, we begin avoiding it “like the plague.”

Tim argues: if adults want to thrive, they need to get serious about play.


When Tim Discovered the Problem

Early in his fitness career, Tim noticed something unusual. High-level executives arrived at the gym with the same intensity they brought to the boardroom. They were focused, rigid, serious—zero joy.

Training became another task to grind through. Progress was fine, but something was missing. After years coaching kids and elite athletes, the contrast became clear:

Kids didn’t “train.” They played. And they built skill, coordination, and confidence naturally.


Introducing Play to Executives

Tim decided to experiment: hopscotch, obstacle courses, freeze tag, animal crawls, invent-your-own-sport challenges.

At first there was skepticism. Then something amazing happened:

  • They smiled

  • They laughed

  • They sweated

  • They learned

  • And they transformed

Results skyrocketed. Enjoyment returned. Creativity grew. And work, home life, and energy improved too.


Why Adults Stop Playing

Life ramps up:

  • Responsibilities grow

  • Careers accelerate

  • Time feels limited

  • Efficiency becomes the priority

Adults avoid embarrassment, avoid being beginners, and avoid anything that looks “unserious.”

We shift from explorers to operators. Life becomes a checklist. Joy becomes planned only for vacations. And it slowly drains our wellbeing.


The Science Behind Play

Play improves:

  • Emotional intelligence

  • Stress resilience

  • Cognitive flexibility

  • Problem-solving

  • Relationships

  • Mood

  • Self-management (even in chronic illness)

Dr. Stuart Brown calls play a biological drive. The brain is wired for it.

Play isn’t the opposite of work.
Play fuels better work.


Why Adults Need Play More Than Ever

We didn’t outgrow play—we just stopped giving ourselves permission.

Play:

  • Restores emotional regulation

  • Builds resilience

  • Generates positive emotions

  • Expands thinking (Broaden & Build Theory)

  • Creates better leaders, colleagues, partners, and humans


10 Ways to Add Play to Your Workday

  1. Start meetings with playful prompts

  2. Add movement breaks

  3. Turn tasks into small games

  4. Use humor intentionally

  5. Walk-and-talk brainstorms

  6. Keep a playful desk object

  7. Create team micro-challenges

  8. Celebrate wins creatively

  9. Try new skills with no pressure

  10. Take curiosity breaks


10 Ways to Add Play Outside of Work

  1. Try a new sport

  2. Explore outdoors with no set route

  3. Learn a hobby just for fun

  4. Attend comedy or improv

  5. Dance during daily tasks

  6. Invent family games

  7. Build something creative

  8. Do something intentionally silly

  9. Weekly microadventures

  10. Monthly novelty experiences

None of these require more time—only permission.


Final Message

Play is not frivolous.
It’s fuel.
It makes you vibrant, creative, emotionally strong, and fully alive.

Your homework: choose one playful action at work and one outside of work today.

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